But it was always hard when my ‘Christian” girlfriends would be dating casually meeting a nice christian boy at church. I became confused because I thought wait… aren’t all christians on the same page here? I guess not.

I’m not sure if I can 100% agree that dating is dead EVERYWHERE but I do think the idea of courtship is non-existent even in a christian community.

below are the thoughts that were going through my mind as i was reading.

social norms are created by the masses, and the masses are confused and without proper instruction. too many parents have abandoned their didactic posts. and even religious leaders have done so, as you wrote.

as i read the posts on the death of dating and considered the norm around me, i was overwhelmed with the sense that we are a culture of the blind leading the blind. we are all lost. we are without instruction. we are without proper standards. there are some among us that are better informed. but they don’t share. they fail to realize that the only way to be preserving salt for a rotting culture is to talk.

so parents stop talking. religious leaders stop talking. and friends stop talking. because we want to be nice to each other and keep up nice relationships. the blind are left to lean on other blind people. and together, they perish.

the world is becoming uglier, i feel. or maybe it has always been ugly. sin changes us and leaves us with an altered reality and a more selfish world view. a world full of selfish people, especially when it comes to dating relationships and marriages, is a terrible and ugly thing. maybe because life is meant for relationships. we need instruction. i think, secretly, underneath the pride, the painful cry of our young people is, “i need some guidance!”

matthew 5:13-16
“You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled by men. You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.”

“what do you say?”

count me in.